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5 Ways You Believe God Doesn’t Love You

Causes of Hypocrisy

Are you anything like me? Do you ever find yourself running one-hundred miles an hour (which is a separate issue altogether), then crashing into the wall of, “I am exhausted,” “I just royally messed up” or “God, he left me?”

When we hit the wall of faith, what tumbles down, often, is not the actions of our faith. In fact, sometimes, we can resurrect those even higher, wider and more diligently. But, many times, what tumbles is our underlying belief about God. Our trust of him. Our stronghold in him.

After repeated hits against this wall, our inner words eventually ring untrue making our outer words ring shallow. Our outsides end up displaying works that our insides are not so certain about. Our external life reflects irritation because our internals got stuck on an emotional rat race we never really wanted to be a part of, but still, we run like caged lunatics. 

The ways to stop being hypocritical may surprise you. They are not ways that straighten your faith with the perfect windexed imaged of shine. I am not going to tell you: mean what you say and say what you mean, choose to really love, stop doubting, check your heart, and get your words right. Although these things are important, they will fall like seeds on 3-feet deep pavement if not coupled with getting to the root of the problem.

So, what makes our heads what to spontaneously combust with disappointment, shame and disgust after we fumble the ball of faith?

Hypocrites Truth #1: If we aren’t receiving the power of God’s love,
we can never really flow God’s powerful love.

We love because he first loved us. 1 Jo. 4:19

5 Ways You Believe God Doesn’t Love You (& How He Does)

1. God is mad at you.

He sees your every move and this includes your mess-ups (true). He is furious that you can’t get your act together (false).

2. God is disgusted with your actions.

He loves me (true), but he doesn’t like me (false).

3. God is looking to punish you.

He is a God of righteousness (true), therefore, just about every moment, he is watching to see the bad you will commit so he can relegate you to the corner, dunce hat and all (false).

4. God doesn’t really care about you.

He is so high and mighty, he has more important people to attend to over you (false). He cares about the poverty stricken in Ethopia, the homeless on the Windy City streets and children enslaved (true), not you (false).

5. God won’t come through for you. 

He cares about your great heavenly rescue (true), but he doesn’t care so much about earthly rescue from small problems (false).

Hypocrites Truth #2: God is not removing his hand from you, he is putting his hand on you.

He is not running the opposite direction, he is running your direction, arms open, eyes wide and smile big. He looks at you, his child, his fullness, his created image and he wants every single part of you. He has a jealous love for you. God wants you more than anything you want in your life.

Will you believe? Rather than hitting the wall of defeat, why not hit the floor dancing and swinging and moving to the new beat of his love. He asks you to dance. Will you?  Grab hold of his life-giving hand and move in authenticity, truthfulness and love. He will take care of you. If believing is hard, take a moment to pray.


Dear Lord God, help me to believe that you are compassionate, merciful and slow to anger (Ps. 145:8). Help me to be okay with the idea that as a sinner, I am in continual need of a Savior. Help me to trust that you don’t require proud perfection, but humble submission. Thank you that each time I fall is a chance to know your love in a greater capacity. Thank you that each time I drive wedges between myself and others, you stand ready to renew me in grace. Thank you God that you care about the details of my life, my heart and my spiritual progress. Make me more like you, less like me, so I can experience more of you. Less fearing your judgement and more trusting your love. Less agonizing over my problems and more bringing them to you. May you make me into a pure vessel of your love. Amen.

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Kelly, a fun-loving, active and spunky mom of two rambunctious toddlers, spends her days pushing swings, changing diapers and pursuing the Lord with all her heart. Called a "Cheerleader of Faith", Kelly's greatest desire is to help women live passionately, purposefully and unencumbered for the Lord.

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  • I love this: “If we aren’t receiving the power of God’s love, we can never really flow God’s powerful love.” We have to let Him in and be filled by Him, before we can truly experience and share all He has to offer us.

  • Make me more like you, less like me, so I can experience more of you. Amen! Thank you Kelly for this push ♥ And thank you for morning prayer time. It is so good!! I know it must be a hardship on you every day but I know people are benefiting from it and I believe those that do not know how to pray are learning. Blessings to you.

  • Kelly, I wish I could say that all your words were foreign to me and I’d never felt or thought that way. So sad. Even with all the truth we have in the Bible, we still mis-characterize God as a cosmic kill-joy. Thanks for setting our hearts on a right path!

  • Life can so easily become so crazy busy. We need to remember to take time to rest. I’m reading Simply Tuesday by Emily P. Freeman and I thought of her book as I read your first paragraphs here today. Great post. Visiting from FMF where I’m parked in the #6 spot.

  • Where was God’s love during the holocaust or any other mass genocide? I’m sure the prayers were flowing like crazy and yet these events still happen. That is not love. I know if my kids were in danger I’d step in and do whatever I could. If he truly exists, it’s only for selfish purposes. He wants everyone to kiss his ass and give nothing in return. All it would take is 1 time of him showing up to convince the world of him, yet it hasn’t happened.

    • We can never on earth understand the reasons for horrific suffering such as the Holocaust much like believers cannot convince you that you words ring untrue. God created man as a free thinker and there is unfathomable evil in this world. Those are the reasons we witness history of man’s cruel actions against others. We much take these situations and never allow them to repeat. We must have faith and courage and every single day stand for those who continue to suffer at the hands of evil worldwide. We may not observe Holocaust behavior today but we are very aware of injustice even in our hometowns. Are we fighting for dignity and human rights or do we observe the news and think it’s someone else’s problem or God’s uncaring hand that allows it to continue? It wasn’t God who allowed the Holocaust. It was people…people who enacted it and people who failed to act against it! It’s not always what happens in life, it’s what we do with it that makes things change. Are we as individuals doing enough to better this life? Or do we only blame God?

  • I feel like God doesn’t love me anymore.Life is so tough , I have thoughts of suicide, I feel so lost and lonely, nobody loves me or cares about me. I have no friends, no Job , no boyfriend,and I am 30. I am miserable

    • This is a pretty intense comment to have lost to the wind. I hope you’re still with us Jackie and that life has taken a turn for the better. Depression is a real disease and treatment does often help. Please look into local health services. Even if it’s just temporary to get you through a rough patch. Another thing that I have found to alleviate that feeling is the help someone who is also suffering. Even if it’s just a dog or cat who needs someone. Chin up.

      Btw, I’m agnostic on the good days and I really don’t buy into what this cheerleader is selling, but your post was on my kid’s birthday and it caught my eye, so who knows. 😉

    • @ Jackie I hope you are here? I have felt your words even as I write this but reading your post makes me want to reach out to you. Don’t suffer alone! You are not. Please respond. I want to help. I sincerely hope the author has read these comments and has reached out to you too! We can’t only publish a book of hope without following up with the websites comments. Whoever you are Jackie, I’m praying for you. ❤️

    • I’ve been married twice and have had several boyfriends. You’re not missing anything but misery. All the things you want and hope for from a relationship won’t happen.

      He will quickly grow bored of sex with you and turn to pornography and other women.

      No matter how well and how long you take care of him when he’s sick or hurt, he won’t reciprocate.

      You’ll be his emotional punching bag. Anything that bothers him or gets him upset will be taken out on you.

      He will be a feminist about finances, meaning both of you should work, but old fashioned about housework and childcare meaning those thinks will be your responsibility.

      Learn to use tools or find good mechanics, landscapers, and handymen. Whenever “mans work” comes up, he will blow you off, distract you by picking a fight, or deliberately screw it up so bad that you’ll never ask him to do it again.

      He will constantly dig at you and belittle you. When it hurts you, he will tell you that you’re just being dramatic and can’t take a joke.

      He will constantly withhold affection and approval just barely out of reach. Compliments will always be backhanded; “this would be really good if it wasn’t too salty” or “she makes even you you skinny.”

      You’ll spend your birthdays going to his favorite restaurants and opening presents that he bought for you for himself. He was into high end computer games. He bought me a supercharged computer mouse that I didn’t need. He hooked it to his computer then gave me his old mouse, saying it worked out great because he saw my mouse wasn’t working anymore, and this way, he didn’t have to spend extra money buying the mouse he wanted. Same thing will happen for Christmas.

      He will pick fights on Valentines and anniversaries until you get to the point that you won’t mention them and hope he forgets.

      Don’t get a boyfriend, get a pet. A pet will actually love you if you take care of it.

  • The question is why is evil becoming greater then good (God). we are taught that God loves us but it is hard to believe when you are constantly being hit by the evil of men. You pray to God but it is the evil that ends up being manifest. Is it that in our current world evil has overcome the good. When you pray and rely on God’s help does it make you more vulnerable to evil?

  • No job for two years now. I have prayed, sought God. I have hoped, believed and waited. Sometimes I feel he abandoned my case. Is anything bigger than he? Failed interviews, I needed that job more than the others. God please help me.

  • Hello I am new to your blog. I have been struggling forever 40 years with horrible things happening in my life I keep going to God and ask him to the best of my ability and knowledge and just pure blinded faith for him to help me for him to take away the things that are hurting my heart so bad to take away the health issues that have literally ruined my life. Sometimes I find the comments in these blogs to be so heart wrenching to me, because these other women get it, I don’t the only thing I know is that I love God and I love Jesus in the spirit and I believe he is who he says he is however I don’t know how to be filled up by him I’ve tried reading the Bible, I’ve tried so hard to let go and let him change things and nothing Never changes if anything another wave hits and it’s worse than the one before now at 48 years old I’m exhausted I’m sad and every area of my life is under spiritual attack real spiritual attack. I was I can do is lay here and just repeat the name Jesus over and over because I don’t even know what to pray anymore I’m sorry I don’t have any sugarcoated comment to make this is the best that I can do I just don’t feel i’m in the bracket of people that deserve his blessings it’s just heart wrenching to me that none of my prayers come true except for a few that really have to do with other people the suffering I’ve had to endure has colored every milestone in my life with bad memories. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong people say to read the Bible I read it now I don’t understand it I pray all the time people say just let it go I don’t know what that meansBecause when I do that and I wait I wait I wait for months years nothing changes I know we’re all only human but I’m at the end of my resources I feel cast out I feel defeated.

  • I am years late, but I needed this. For so long I fall away because I feel God just doesn’t like me, why would he, when you grow up with people who treat you as if they don’t love you it is hard to view yourself as lovable by anyone. I thank you so much for writing this and the prayer. I will repeat it every day.

  • I grew up being taught to believe and trust God. Now I just don’t know anymore. I’m struggling just to eat and survive. I am alone and hungry. I have no food. Where is God now! As I type this I am contemplating Suicide. The tears are rolling and I’m so depressed.
    I thought he was suppose to take care of me. I’m alone and this life isn’t worth it anymore. I have no family to help and I’m lost.
    When this is read I’ve already taken the first attempt on my life.
    I’m struggling and have no food.

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