There’s an unsaid celebrity who said unsaid things. I don’t want to say much about this person because: 1.) I’m not a fan of gossip. 2.) I do not know this person’s heart 3.) I bless her and hope she gets all her heart desires (aka. Jesus). 4.) The point of this story is not really about her, but about me. (and perhaps, you)
However…the whole story really spoke to me. Here’s the clandestine background you need to know: This individual is at the top of her game. She is loved. She has been beyond successful in every single and solitary sense of the word. The world stops and gawks, “Wow, look at her. She has it all.”
Now, you’d think with so many awards, cheers, and recognitions, this person would know: I am amazing. I am so happy. I have all I need.
Yet, in a recent report this person lamented something the equivalent of, “Waa…my friend didn’t call me today to tell me I did a good job.”
When I heard this person say this, I considered it deeper. It is like an Olympian saying, “I didn’t hear the 4-year-old clap for me, so I must be no good.” Or like a professor becoming furious that on the first day of class that no one stood up and cheered for him. Or the genius saying, no one was happy for me that I completed the Spokane Post crossword puzzle.
And here I realized: If you are always looking for people to recognize you, you always will. You won’t just reach the pinnacle of success one day and say, “Well, looky here…now I need nothing from anyone. I have arrived at happiness…”
This just isn’t happening.
The truth is if you base your worth off of others’ opinion, it will never stop. The ferris wheel keeps going. Sure you may rise to the top because you’re getting seen, but before you know it, it swoops to the bottom and you are in obscurity, feeling bound with insecurity. Then, you lament that your husband didn’t cheer for you as you finished your bike ride.
We can undo this, you know?
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[a] 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” Mk 12:30-31
What if we weren’t as much bound up by what we do as how much we love?
If who you are is loved and what you do is love others, how can mankind ever block a goal like that? His love sets us free.
Prayer: God, it is not trophies, metrics or applause that I serve, but you. Fill me with your love, so I can pour it out. Equip me with your heart, so I can enjoy it above all. Do a mighty work in me, but let it be all about you. Everything else pales in comparison. In Jesus’ Name, I pray. Amen.
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Kelly, such good words. If we wait for others to tell us how good we are, we will always be disappointed. If we find our value in who God says we are, and in the truth that He loves us completely? That’s when the need for others’ approval is stripped away.
Thanks for such a great post!
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Amen! Everything else pales in comparison to Jesus. Thanks for the reminder.
The choice to love is always the right choice. Seeking love and approval is a beast and can leave you feeling worn out and defeated. The only love we can seek with full confidence is the Father’s. He never tells us not to come, not to seek, not to ask. He is always willing to show His love!
Oh, this post just underscores for me the ultimate neediness of our hearts without Jesus. Unless we have Him as our highest and truest Love, we will always be looking for something else to satisfy our emptiness.
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Yes, our worth must come from God. He loves us.
I join you in your prayer to be equipped with God’s heart and love Him and others.
Accolades will never be a right fix for our hearts who can truly only be fulfilled with the love of the Lord. It is hard, we yearn for appreciation from humans who we think see more, but is is just not true. God sees everything and he still loves us! Thanks for sharing this, Kelly.
Been there. Maybe not approval seeking but are to encourage each other.
Been there. Maybe not approval seeking but are to encourage each other.
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