The woman’s words were supposed to be encouraging, but they were laced with something… What it was exactly? I’m still considering.
The more she talked, the more that icky, creepy feeling came over me. Do you know what I’m talking about?
Many times, it happens when people project fear. Afraid their bad story may repeat, they project their worries. Usually, they are not even aware they’re releasing their fear.
True love never comes out of projected fear.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.” (1 Jo. 4:18 NIV)
To speak from a place of fear, or to project worry, is not love. Why? Because fear punishes the recipient.
I’m afraid I am not enough, so I get passive aggressive with you.
I’m horrified that my kid will not get good grades. I drive them hard after school because of my anxiety.
I’m fearful my husband may cheat, so I question him relentlessly when he gets home.
How does fear drive you? How do you project worry or fear?
We all have moments when we are afraid. We all have hurts. God wants to help you and love you through those. Let us bring our unresolved fears to God so they don’t resolve on hurting others.
Prayer: Father, God, I feel afraid. I feel afraid because of what I’ve seen or what I haven’t seen. I feel afraid because I don’t want to get hurt. I feel afraid because someone has hurt me. I feel afraid of: _____. I bring to you this feeling. I don’t know what to do with this, but I know you have a better plan for me than fear. I repent of fearing. Will you show me a new perspective? Will you show me how you are defending me, protecting me, helping me, guiding me or providing for me, through this very issue? Will you open my eyes to the scripture I need to see? Will you guide me in may way? Will you give me courage? In you, I trust. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
Scriptures for when you feel afraid:
While it is true that many Old Testament scriptures were spoken by God, to specific people, about specific situations, it still remains: God’s character and nature is unchanging. He is who He says He is. He is with us — and will help us!
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Is. 41:10)
“Have I not commanded you to be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.” (Josh. 1:9)
“I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears.” (Ps. 34:4)